Discover the Missing Ingredient to a Fulfilling Life

Without question, happiness is important. Who doesn't want to be happy and wish the same for their loved ones? But this book is not limited to happiness. This is a book about living a life that matters with a broader view about what the "good life" entails. Much of what we desire often has nothing to do with happiness but is just as important. This includes meaning and purpose in life, wisdom, satisfying relationships, the ability to tolerate distress, spirituality, creativity, compassion, feeling a sense of competence and mastery, and so on. Sometimes trying to be happy actually gets in the way of making inroads toward these other elements. Effectively handling the pain and stress that life brings is an essential part of creating a rich, meaningful existence.

Praise for Curious?

Curiosity is what makes for great leaders, great parents, and great friends. Buttressed by the latest scientific research,  Curious? is one of those rare books that can make you rethink how you see the world. --Arianna Huffington

Curious? points the way to an exploring spirit that leads to wonderment, joy, and meaning. It's one of those rare books that is both research-based and practical. - Dr. David G. Myers, Distinguished Professor of Psychology and Author of The Pursuit of Happiness

Combining well-designed self-help with state-of-the-art positive psychology and profoundly inspiring stories, this is the perfect book to read when you are having second thoughts about challenging yourself to explore that next step in life! - Dr. Stephen Post, Distinguished Professor and Author of Why Good Things Happen to Good People

Curious? will wake you up to the rewards, adventures, and meaning inherent in both life's most momentous and most quotidian moments. - Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, Author of The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want

When you adopt this broad view of what matters, an important question remains that this entire book hinges on. What is essential to creating a fulfilling life?

The answer is…

  • Being curious.

  • Being open to new experiences.

  • Being able to effectively manage ambiguity and uncertainty.

  • Being able to adapt to the demands required of different situations (what I call “psychological flexibility”).

  • Discovering our strengths, deepest values, and what it is we are passionate about.

  • Strengthening connections to these values and commit to a life aligned with them.

More Reviews of Curious?

• Curious? featured in The Guardian, "This column will change your life- A curious mind is an active mind" (June 2009)
• "Can Being Curious Make You Happier?", The Huffington Post (May 2009).
• U.S. News and World Report (May, 2009) - Happiness in the Recession
• Book review in Greater Good Magazine (10/28/2009)
• Review in PsycCritiques (American Psychological Association)-"No flotation tank? Read this book"
• Miller McCune Magazine- "Curiosity: The Killer Catalyst" (November/December 2009)
• AARP- "Why Asking Questions and Embracing Uncertainty is Good for You" (June, 2010)
• Unfiltered reader reviews from HarperCollins First Look Program
• Working Mother magazine (December, 2009)- "Cultivating curiosity: Awakening your child's interest in the world around him"


I offer workshops and keynotes for business organizations, government, professional communities, continuing education for various disciplines, and the general public. With cutting-edge knowledge and humor, I offer practical suggestions for how people and organizations can flourish.



My books Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side offer the new message that the greatest opportunities for joy and personal growth do not happen when searching for happiness, certainty, or safety. When we acknowledge negative emotions and impulses, and use them wisely, and are open to new experiences, we attain greater success and become a better person.



In my Well-Being Laboratory, we conduct research to better understand strength use and development, social relationships, optimal performance, happiness, meaning and purpose in life, resilience, emotions and their regulation, and stress with a focus on how to apply this knowledge to better people's lives.